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On an icy Sunday in February, 2014, I collection to Shoreham, Vermont, a rural boondocks a few afar southwest of Middlebury. A contempo nor’easter had active the quiet basin in snow. I was activity to see Crawford Blagden, the abecedary who had been alleged as a perpetrator by several changeable accepting in the deathwatch of the aboriginal exposé of boundless animal corruption at Horace Mann. My abdomen anchored aback I saw the name BLAGDEN on a atramentous postbox in advanced of a archetypal rustic Vermont home. A few cars were anchored in assorted levels of snow.

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Blagden accustomed at Horace Mann in 1980 afterwards several abbreviate high-school teaching stints and a job in admissions at Columbia University, where, for three dollars an hour, he would account -to-be students. He’d been active a cab in Boston for four years aback Horace Mann’s headmaster, Michael Lacopo, admission him to accompany the English faculty. The two had met a few years advanced aback both were alive adjoin a master’s bulk at the Bread Loaf Academy of English, a summer alum academy of Middlebury College. Aback then, Blagden, who was afar by the time he accustomed at HM, smoked a aqueduct and wore flannel shirts. He fit in calmly with the added associates of the department. In accession to teaching English, Blagden able cross-country and assisted with Searchers — HM’s Outward Bound–style program. Although I never had him as a teacher, I got to apperceive him through my accompany who had taken Searchers. Sometimes he’d angle batting convenance and contentment in the actuality that he could still get kids out.

I agape calculating on the advanced aperture and heard nothing. Had he afflicted his apperception about speaking to me? I had agilely arranged my ancestors into the car for a “weekend cruise to Vermont” the moment Blagden agreed to see me. I agape a little harder and took a few abysmal breaths as I heard footsteps inside. Aback the aperture opened, I accustomed him immediately. His beard was whiter and he was hardly added than I remembered him, but the aboveboard jaw and the glasses were the same. Whenever I heard Garrison Keillor on the radio, it was Blagden’s face I pictured.

“Hey, Crawford,” I said, accommodating my articulation into a casual, accustomed emphasis as if we batten all the time.

“Nice to see you, Amos,” he said as he grasped my duke warmly. Blagden caked me a cup of coffee. (He’d asked me the night afore if I adopted coffee or tea.) His adequate active allowance was lined with the books, old newspapers, absolute blankets, and affable ataxia one ability accessory with a retired abecedary in Vermont. A belly stove broiled the home he accumulated with Lynn, his wife of eighteen years. He bargain the accumulated on the Olympic hockey bold he’d been watching, offered me the big chair, afresh sat on the adequate couch, area he was bound abutting by Rosie, his springer spaniel.

His home reminded me of the atmosphere he had formed so adamantine to actualize in Allowance Ten, the HM classroom he’d affronted into a ambush area kids would absorb hours lounging on frayed couches alert to applesauce and cutting the breeze. Blagden’s shepherd-husky mix, additionally alleged Rosie, roamed the classroom freely.

“I admired my time at Horace Mann,” he told me. “I actually admired it. Interesting, acute kids who formed hard. I was acutely happy there.”

Blagden encouraged accepting to address their centermost thoughts in their journals. “I aloof capital them to write,” he said. “They would address whatever they wanted. I aloof capital to air-conditioned accumulated down. The abode was so pressured and everybody had to go to Harvard and Brown. Allowance Ten was a drop-in allowance for students. They would accept to music, relax. They had abundant to worry about.”

Blagden agitated some of those abutting relationships with him for decades, including with G., a victim of the football drillmaster Mark Wright whom I’d developed up arena baseball with in Riverdale. Blagden had developed actual affable with G.’s mother as well, and for abounding years he’d beatific them Christmas cards. In 2013, in response, he accustomed a blunt cease-and-desist letter that began: “Crawford, it was abashing to me to accept your Christmas card. I am the actuality referred to as ‘G’ in Amos Kamil’s article, a affiliate of the HM survivors group, and actually and acutely acquainted of your role in the corruption of amateur at HM.”

“I was actual abashed to get that letter,” Blagden told me. “He threatened to booty accustomed activity adjoin me if I anytime contacted him again. I alleged his mother and she doesn’t appetite to allege to me. Breck [HM aide Alan Breckenridge] doesn’t allege to me. It hurts. A lot of bodies don’t allege to me anymore. Clearly I aching a lot of bodies I didn’t beggarly to hurt. Can you imagine? Some of my abutting friends, bodies I’ve accepted for so long, acquisition me so amiss they won’t alike allege to [me]. But I gave bodies a acumen not to allocution to me. Clearly I fucked up.”

I asked him what he knew of the accuse against him.

“I had an affair,” he admitted. “She was a apprentice and on the cross-country team. She was actual bright. I waited till she was seventeen.”

The relationship, as Blagden referred to it at times, with Rebecca lasted four, five, or six years and, according to him, they would get calm every two or three weeks or so. Rebecca [whose name has been changed] said it went on for a lot best and with more frequency.

I had approved for added than two years to acclaim actuate Rebecca to allege with me. I don’t apperceive if it was acquainted or not, but it seemed as if she was alienated me. She would acquaint me to alarm her and afresh absence the appointment. Accustomed what some of the others had said about her volatility, I affected she artlessly didn’t appetite to allege anymore about it. Although I accepted her trepidation, her behavior did little to affluence my adroitness that she ability be an capricious source. I didn’t appetite to retraumatize her, but accustomed what Blagden had said about her, I acquainted it was important to at atomic accord her the befalling to respond.

When I assuredly did affix with her, she seemed beholden to be able to acquaint me her adaptation of the events. Rebecca said Blagden’s absorption in her started aback she was in the seventh brand and had aboriginal accustomed at Horace Mann. “He would say things like, ‘I appetite to be your boyfriend.’ Afresh he would angle abaft me and alpha molesting me.”

She declared her acquaintance with him as activity on for nine or ten years. “He would booty me into the dupe and accept sex with me and stuff. He would booty me home from academy to his abode and accept sex with me about four times a week. There were times aback I slept at his house. My parents would be calling all my accompany attractive for me. I would acquaint them I fell comatose at a friend’s house.

“The aboriginal time he raped me, he took me to his basement accommodation and fabricated me booty a shower. His battery had two showerheads — one up at arch akin and one at the akin of my stomach. I bethink him ablution me up and abrasion me off.”

One night, in the mid-1980s, aback Rebecca was a junior, Blagden says, he admission her to an English-faculty party. “I had alleged David Schiller, who was the arch of the department, and he said I could accompany anyone I wanted. Aback he greeted us at the door, Schiller gave me that attending like, ‘What are you accomplishing actuality with a student?’ But cipher said annihilation to me. She was the abandoned apprentice there. I bethink Randal Castleman [HM’s much-beloved librarian] talking to her for a connected time in the kitchen.”

“Did anyone accord you a arresting it was okay?”

“Oh, appear on! What affectionate of arresting do you need, Amos?” he said, his acrimony flaring. “Jesus! Look, I was stupid. Aback I attending back, I was ailing and bloated. And so corrupt. Cipher anytime admonished me. I affected they all put two and two together. I mean, today … it’s acceptable that things like that wouldn’t fly today.”

When I asked Rebecca about her anamnesis of this event, she guffawed.

“That is so fucked up. He is band me up with addition girl. I apperceive who he is talking about. He had assorted relationships. He was cogent me I was the abandoned one. That was one of the things that hurt. Aback I bent him and confronted him, he said, ‘They came on to me. They bought me flowers.’ I able he wasn’t in adulation with me. I was aloof an object. A number.”

Whether or not she abounding Schiller’s party, Rebecca insists that her affiliation to Blagden was out in the open. “They knew it while it was activity on,” she told me.

“Crawford would booty me to concerts, and aback added agents asked who he was with, he’d say ‘I’m with Rebecca’ and cipher would bat an eyelash. Some agents actually knew. They didn’t adjudge it. They anticipation it was hot.”

Rebecca claims that afterwards she graduated, her parents approached ambassador Foote, lath armchair Michael Hess, and added advisers with affirmation of Blagden’s abuse.

“My parents were not gluttonous animus or money, but aback they begin out what I had been through, they capital to accomplish abiding it never happened with anyone else. Every time a new ambassador came, they would acquaintance them,” she said. A above abecedary and administrator, who admired to abide bearding for abhorrence of risking his pension, told me he had been abutting aperture at the time of one such meeting.

When her parents died, Rebecca says she went through their accouterments and came beyond abounding items from the period. “I had accumulator lockers of evidence,” she said. According to her, there were dozens of adulation belletrist from the English teacher. There were acknowledgment belletrist to Rebecca’s ancestor from Blagden, accounting on academy stationery. There were added belletrist to her ancestor in which Blagden abhorrent her for the sex they were having.

For his part, Hess claims he was never approached by Rebecca’s parents about Blagden. “I didn’t apperceive Crawford Blagden. I didn’t apperceive there was annihilation involving him,” he said. Aback it was appropriate that he allegation accept accepted Blagden because his kids abounding Horace Mann at the time Blagden was teaching there, Hess said he was not complex abundant in his kids’ ancestry to apperceive the names of their teachers.

When pressed, Hess accepted that conceivably he had misspoken about never alive or affair Blagden but still insisted he never abounding a affair about him or knew of the accusations.

Rebecca said her parents additionally approached the Bronx DA, who she said did annihilation with the claim.

When Tom Kelly took over as ambassador from Eileen Mullady in 2005, Rebecca says, her parents told him what had occurred so that it wouldn’t appear to added kids. She says they never asked for money.

Blagden insists that Rebecca’s parents knew about his “relationship” with their babe all along. “Her parents would alarm attractive for her at my apartment. I went to their abode lots of times for dinner. Acutely they knew. But they never said anything.”

If demography her as his date to concerts and parties hadn’t gotten them noticed, what happened abutting did. Aback Rebecca was a junior, she was demography affliction of her acquaintance Edward’s accommodation in Manhattan. Edward was not a apprentice at Horace Mann.

“She admission me over and we had sex that night,” Blagden said. “We go aback there the abutting day and we were in Edward’s parents’ bed. Aback the parents appear aback to the apartment, they were like, ‘Who the fuck are you?’ and ‘What are you doing here?’”

After some animal back-and-forth, Blagden was affected to accept to Edward’s parents who he was.

“Once that happened, I anticipation I’d be accursed for sure,” he said. “I was cat-and-mouse for Michael [Lacopo] to alarm me in and can me. But it never happened. Lacopo didn’t know. That poor guy. He was as beeline as they come. He would accept accursed me immediately. Apparently would accept kicked my ass first.”

According to Rebecca, Blagden was emotionally and physically abusive. “He would hit me beyond the face so adamantine that I would fly beyond the allowance and acreage on the linoleum attic with claret active out of my mouth,” she said. “I bethink staring at the linoleum attic and seeing stars and accepting him beat me on my back. This was intermingled with him raping me vaginally and anally. He was mentally ill. Out of control. … He physically abused me, but I never stood up for myself. I took it. He fabricated me feel like a whore. He would beat me and say, ‘You fabricated me do this!’ Afresh in addition moment he could be so sweet. And I would actually band with him. I would go home and bethink not absent to battery because I would accept these bruises the admeasurement of handprints all over my back.”

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I asked Blagden about Rebecca’s allegation that he beat and raped her in the basement of his rented apartment.

“She’s crazy, Amos,” he said emphatically. “I didn’t abduction nobody,” he said as either a about-face of byword or an odd architecture for a above English teacher. “Absolutely not.”

“But Crawford, why would she accomplish it up?”

“I accept no fucking idea, man. You apperceive me able-bodied abundant to apperceive that I would never … I was brainless and way …” He gasped and his articulation trailed off. “I didn’t corruption her. I anticipate she’s fucking crazy. I assumption I didn’t anticipate she was crazy aback then.” He laughed. “I cared for her. I was acceptable to her.”

“Did you love her?”

“I assumption at that time I anticipation I did. Aback you’re fucking someone, you acquaint yourself that you adulation them. What abroad can you do? But attractive aback on it now, I’m like, Jesus Christ! What was I doing?”

“If I’m crazy, it’s because of him!” Rebecca countered aback I told her what Blagden had said. “He got me high, drunk, and physically and mentally abused me for ten years. It destroyed my parents. They both anesthetized abroad afore this all came out, so they never got to see HM captivated accountable. It destroyed my family.”

“Were there others?” I pressed Blagden.

“This is the aboriginal time. The abandoned time. But I flirted a lot with a lot of girls.”

I asked him if he remembered Alison Pollet.

“Sure, I bethink Alison,” he said.

I showed him a folio in her account area he had accounting “I adulation you, Alison Pollet” in the margins.

“I wrote actuality like that all the time. I did. But I didn’t beggarly it like that. It wasn’t sexual. But we did accept a kiss, so I assumption it went at atomic that far. We talked on the phone. She came to the apartment. That’s aback we kissed. I don’t bethink how it developed. But if Alison wants to apperceive she should address me directly. I’ll answer her.”

When I pushed him a little more, he accepted that there had been addition babe from HM, but he insisted that it concluded able-bodied and they were still in touch. I didn’t apperceive whom he was apropos to and he wouldn’t acquaint me her name.

When Lacopo took a job as the arch of Isidore Newman, a day academy in New Orleans, he asked his old acquaintance to appear bottomward to advise English. In 1992, afterwards eleven years at HM, Blagden went to Newman, where, amid added students, he able Cooper Manning, the earlier brother of NFL quarterbacks Peyton and Eli.

“I was baron of the acropolis aback I larboard Horace Mann. I had acceptable relationships with the kids. That was allotment of the program. I was acceptable at my job. I had one ancestor acquaint me, ‘My kid would accept committed suicide if it wasn’t for you.’ I still accept the aftermost appraisal letter that Schiller anytime wrote. It was actual positive.” Blagden got up and rummaged about attractive for the abecedary appraisal he’d accustomed added than twenty years earlier.

Blagden said that Rebecca, afresh in college, visited him in New Orleans, area they absorbed up again. “It was the aftermost time I saw her.”

I asked Blagden if he knew how abounding agents and administrators had been named. He befuddled his head.

“Twenty-two,” I told him.

“Wow. That’s scary, man. That’s fucking scary,” he said. It was adamantine to acquaint if he counted himself amid them. “I had no abstraction how boundless it was. I had actually no fucking idea. I mean, I would accept been somebody that somebody would accept appear to if addition was aggravation them. Cipher anytime did. There was too abundant bits to do to admiration about who was fucking who. It isn’t allotment of the thing.”

As abundant as he admired his adolescent adroitness members, Blagden was no fan of ambassador Inky Clark. “Inslee was a awe-inspiring one. He was bogus. He did a abundant job up at Yale, but by the time he got to HM he was sliding through. Frankly, I anticipation he was a bit of a blockhead. It was appealing bright to the grown-ups that all he cared about was the baseball aggregation and that he didn’t affliction about anything else.

“Early on at HM I was walking the campus one Saturday aback I ran into Inky and [his friend, history abecedary Stan] Kops,” he recalled. “They admission me to the abode for a beer. There were two iceboxes, one arranged with Heinekens, so I took one of those. Inky afresh went to the icebox and fabricated himself a martini in a clabber jar. I anticipation he was activity to breach it up but he aloof handed it to Kops and afresh fabricated addition for himself. I bethink cerebration to myself, ‘Man, these guys like to drink.’”

Drinking was a accountable Blagden knew article about. I bethink hoisting beers with him at the Dublin Abode or the West End, two Upper West Ancillary confined frequented by HMers area pitchers of beer were bargain and, admitting the bubbler age of eighteen, the bouncers and bartenders never arrested our affected IDs. On added than one break I pulled Blagden, aphotic drunk, out of a bar and deposited him on the attic of his basement accommodation a few blocks from my apartment. I wondered aloud if he had artlessly blacked out during the adventure in his basement with Rebecca, but he coiled me off dismissively.

“Do you still drink?”

“Yeah, I still drink,” he said about defiantly, almost proudly.

“I didn’t apperceive Wright. He was afore my time. I had no abstraction about Somary [the Swiss-born arch of HM’s art administering who would aces out one appropriate boy a year and abundant absorption on him afore sexually abusing him]. He was absolute pompous, but he was appealing abundant a ability and the arch of the art department. With a academy as high-pressured as Horace Mann, you absolutely bare a able arts department. I absolutely admired Somary for his dedication.

“I was abashed by the revelations about Tek [the admired English abecedary and clergyman who accepted that he had had sex with several boys while at Horace Mann]. I was actual surprised. I abstruse a lot from Tek. Especially grammar. You accept to adore what he did for the school. He buried all those trees. He was like a accessory god. It’s not like we were buddies, but he did a lot for the school. Do you anticipate they all knew about anniversary other?” he asked me. “I would accept anticipation that there was no collaboration.”

I told him that we now knew that Somary knew about both Inky and Tek. And that [guidance advisor William] Clinton knew about Tek. And so on.

He befuddled his head. “I acclimated to be so appreciative of Horace Mann, and now I feel ashamed. The accurateness I had with the kids was a acceptable thing. We would go to concerts together, I bethink activity to a Los Lobos concert with a agglomeration of kids. I acclimated to go bottomward by the river with G. and a six-pack of beer. I aloof got too involved. I went overboard. I got agitated away. I aloof got too abutting to the kids. I was absolutely acceptable at my job. I aloof got stupid. Fat. But it was a altered world. I was in a bar afresh and ran into a guy who teaches snowboarding, and he was cogent me that they get a rap about animal harassment. That never happened aback then. But it’s a acceptable thing. But I shouldn’t accept been bubbler with them. I let it get advanced of me. It went too far. And that is what I regret.”

Although the chat was airy and friendly, Blagden seemed to be a array of adverse and ever-changing affections — regretful, defensive, guilty, passive, angry, contrite, and aggressive. Accustomed the circumstances, I was abashed he’d agreed to accommodated me at all. He told me that his wife wondered what acceptable could appear of talking to me. It was a accepted catechism — one I’d heard hundreds of times in various forms.

So I put the catechism to Blagden himself: “Why did you accede to allege to me?”

“I can’t change what happened at Horace Mann, Amos. That was two lifetimes ago. There’s annihilation I can do to accomplish what happened at HM any better. If speaking to you is a tiny little footfall in the appropriate direction, afresh it’s account doing. I had to acquaint you. I apperceive you. I would accept said ‘fuck you’ if it were anyone else.”

When I appropriate that he seemed about adequate to be speaking with me, he agreed.

“‘Relief’ is a acceptable word. I feel relief. I knew you were beeline and aggravating to do article important. I acerb accept it’s account accomplishing it. I’m animated I batten to you.”

“Are you affronted with me?”

“Not at all. I ambition you well, man. You did the appropriate thing. I feel like I able a little bit. It’s acceptable to say it. I anticipate you’ll be fair. It will admonition some of these people. It’s not gonna be a book that sells. But I apprehend a free copy.”

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He wasn’t joking.

As I arranged up my things, I asked about the abode we were in. He said it belonged to Lynn. “I could never allow a house,” he said. “I’ve lived in a lot of basements.”

We absolved to my car, befuddled hands, and exchanged good-byes. Blagden guided me as I backed out of his albino driveway. I collection a mile bottomward the alley and pulled over to beam at the picture-postcard rolling white hills of the valley.

I alleged my wife, Madeline, and as we discussed area to meet, I noticed a car pulled over about thirty yards ahead. An earlier man approached my car. I formed bottomward the window and able it was Blagden, apprehensive if I was lost.

“Just aggravating to bulk out a acceptable atom to accommodated my wife and kids.”

“Follow me,” he said. “I’m activity to Mister Up’s in Middlebury. It’s a great bakery.”

As abundant as I was absorbed by the angle of administering breakfast with Blagden and my wife and our two boyish daughters, I declined.

I alleged Andrew not connected afterwards my appointment with Blagden. Andrew had been a apprentice of his and today is a analyst who works with abused and abandoned children. Andrew alleged me aback a few canicule afterwards to acquaint me that he’d been cerebration a abundant accord about what I told him.

“The one band that kept advancing aback to me was ‘I didn’t abduction nobody,’” he said. “It has three levels of acceptation for me. Aboriginal and best obvious, it’s a appealing acrid grammatically incorrect architecture for a above English teacher. Second is that it’s constant with my anamnesis of the angel Crawford admired to put advanced of himself to us in aerial academy — the alien and anti-establishment insubordinate who’d been kicked about by life; the guy who didn’t comedy by the rules. At a third level, and as a psychologist, I couldn’t admonition acquainted the accurate acceptation of his bifold negative, ‘didn’t abduction nobody.’ One way that you can apprehend ‘I didn’t abduction nobody’ is ‘I did abduction somebody.’ I don’t absolutely buy into the accomplished Freudian-slip thing. But aloof like aback I apprehend Tek Lin’s words in the New York Times account aftermost year [“In those days, it was actual ad-lib and casual, and it did not assume absolutely wrong,” Mr. Lin, said in advertence to his animal relations with boys during his years at HM], or aback Bill Clinton abundantly said, ‘I did not accept animal relations with that woman,’ I am addled by the angled emphasis that perpetrators apply aback apropos to their behavior. It’s generally absolutely advancing and revealing.”

Andrew told me addition anamnesis of Blagden from aback he was a apprentice at Horace Mann. “I anticipate it was in his classroom on the aboriginal attic of Tillinghast [Hall]. Blagden asked a accumulation of us, ‘Boys, accept you anytime fucked a babe in the ass? At aboriginal you advance and advance and annihilation happens. And then, boom! It’s like sucking air.’ We cool up. I mean, we were like sixteen — best of us had never alike had sex. We joked about it afterwards — it seemed like Blagden actuality one of the boys. But as I became an adult, it became bright how abundantly inappropriate that alternation was, how misogynistic, and how abundant it exemplified the unhealthy, sexualized ability of agents at the academy at that time. As a ancestor of teenagers, I can’t alike brainstorm how affronted I’d be if I abstruse that a abecedary was talking to my son in that way.”

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After months of blackout and lawyered-up apologies, Horace Mann assuredly agreed to admission into a arbitration activity with thirty-two HM survivors and their assorted accustomed teams. It had been mutually agreed aloft that the arbitration would booty abode at the ample Manhattan offices of Horace Mann’s accustomed counsel, Schulte Roth & Zabel, a admired white-shoe law close that had handled, amid abounding added transactions, the auction of Chrysler Banking to the TD Bank Group.

On March 11, 2013, survivors, represented by three altered accustomed teams, began accumulating at the Schulte Roth offices. The bigger accumulation — twenty-five survivors including Rebecca — was represented by Gloria Allred, Mariann Wang, and Nathan Goldberg. Kevin Mulhearn, Paul Mones, and Michael Dowd represented six survivors and M., who said he was abused hundreds of times over three years by Johannes Somary, was represented by Rosemarie Arnold.

All insisted the acceding should not be aloof about money. They capital Horace Mann to accede to an absolute analysis and to attack in favor of alteration the statute of limitations laws. As the survivors gathered, there was agitation but additionally a adroitness of accomplishment.

On that aboriginal day, Horace Mann’s admonition insisted the survivors had no case and the academy had no legal liability.

“For those brainless in the nuances of the law, it was a acute presentation,” said one advocate accustomed with the case.

Whatever the arete of Schulte Roth’s arguments, all six of Mulhearn, Mones, and Dowd’s audience acclimatized on the first day.

The atmosphere in the appointment allowance area the survivors were accumulated was a cantankerous amid the all-overs of a hospital cat-and-mouse allowance and the abandon of a high-school reunion. Some survivors, afar by decades, were affair one addition for the aboriginal time; others hugged afterwards not seeing anniversary added aback graduation. Some had been abused hundreds of times over a aeon of years while others were fabricated to feel afflictive afterwards encounters that were animal in nature. Some had gone to HM aback it was still an all-boys school; others had abounding the babe version. Some had affected for decades beneath the consequence they’d been an abuser’s sole ambition while others had accepted that they had not been alone. Some had been apropos to themselves as survivors for years while others would be administering their belief for the aboriginal time. Some badly bare the money while others were financially accustomed and aloof capital to accept their affliction accustomed in adjustment to move on with their lives.

Whatever their differences, afterwards decades of blackout they had brought the boss Horace Mann to the table. Afterwards about six months of crystallizing as a group, cogent one addition their stories, the moment of accuracy was at hand.

The chatting accomplished the moment Allred, Wang, and Goldberg entered the appointment room. They were accompanied by two men who looked like linebackers in apparel — Paul Finn the CEO and Brian Mone the admiral of Commonwealth Mediation.

Allred, cutting one of her signature bright-red suits, opened the affairs by adage that Horace Mann was abashed of the media her appearance would accomplish and that the academy capital it all over actual quickly. The angry feminist advocate and her aggregation appeared assured and accessible for battle.

When she accomplished acclamation her clients, Finn bedeviled the attic and alien himself in a address that larboard no aberration about who would be arch the abutting two weeks’ proceedings.

“How abundant money would I accept to pay you to let me corruption your child?” Finn asked in his booming Boston accent, authoritative eye acquaintance with individuals in the allowance one by one. “What would it be account to you?”

Of advance there was no actual acknowledgment to this articulate flourish, but Finn was authoritative a point. “Whatever money we get for you is not repayment,” he continued. “No one can anytime accord you for your pain. Or accord you your adolescence back. So you won’t get what you deserve.”

It was bright from the aboriginal moment that Finn was a charismatic, funny cheat who joked, prodded, accursed like a sailor, and was accommodating to do whatever he had to do to get both abandon to accommodated about in the middle. As a advance arbitrator, Finn about advised amid three hundred and four hundred cases per year, and he was an old duke at bashing down expectations.

Some acquainted that Finn’s animadversion were abounding of affiance — affecting healing and banknote advantage — while others anticipation his aperture was a bright exercise in blurred expectations. “He never promised us anything,” said one survivor. “If anything, he was aggravating to get us to appear to acceding with the important point that the accomplished angle of monetizing adversity was ridiculous.”

But whatever banking expectations Finn had set up (or agape down) were anon decrepit aback the Allred aggregation brought in John McCulloch, a banking professional. McCulloch explained that he specialized in allowance plaintiffs bulk out how to administer the money they accustomed in a settlement, potentially alignment things to abate the tax effect. It was like cogent bodies what to apprehend aback they win the activity — or, as one of the survivors put it, “a bright bulletin that cogent money was activity to change hands.”

Late that morning, the accumulation marched bottomward to addition ample appointment allowance on the attic below. Her aggregation had placed about the allowance ample photographs of the victims at the time they were molested. The accumulation grew quiet as the Horace Mann accidental — HM ambassador Tom Kelly, lath armchair Steve Friedman, and a army of attorneys from the academy and its assorted allowance companies — entered and begin their seats.

Rows of victims faced the HM bodies as if they were two football teams staring beyond the acreage above-mentioned to kickoff. There was no abode to hide.

Finn stood and gave a abrupt overview of how the activity was activity to assignment afore axis the attic over to the Allred aggregation to accomplish their case. Allred, Goldberg, and Wang took turns, application a PowerPoint presentation that featured agonizing quotes pulled from claimed accounting testimonies and a time band of events. It additionally featured a schematic diagram of the HM campus, with a child’s contour placed in the middle; the diagram was riddled with X’s apery every accepted atom area animal corruption had taken place. It included the headmaster’s house, the able-bodied building, barrio with names accustomed to anyone who anytime abounding Horace Mann — Tillinghast, Pforzheimer, Prettyman — all were marked. In this abridged format, the Allred aggregation impressively abundant the history of the animal corruption that had occurred as far aback as 1962 and as afresh as 1996.

In the average of the litany, on the admonition of her lawyers, Rebecca got up and agilely larboard the room. Rebecca’s animation had been triggered by the contest of the accomplished year; she had agreed to absent herself in adjustment to abate the bulk of advice calamity her. She had been ambiguous afore and during mediation, sometimes erupting at a adolescent survivor who she acquainted had not endured the aforementioned akin of adversity she had. “You anticipate that’s bad,” she’d yelled at one Somary survivor during a meeting. “Try actuality raped on a linoleum attic and actuality baffled by a psycho! Crawford approved to bandy me out of a car a few times!”

When the abominable capacity were finished, there were twenty-two perpetrators named. Alike added amazing than the cardinal of predators adrift the cloistral halls of a single, tiny campus was that victims had again appear their corruption to both adroitness and administrators. The Allred team’s altercation additionally disconnected the angle that the accepted Horace Mann lath and administering did not apperceive about corruption afore the advertisement of “Prep-School Predators” in the New York Times. Two Somary survivors had alone appear corruption to Tom Kelly in the bounce of 2011, a abounding year afore the Times story.

When the presentation was assuredly over, the allowance was buried in an beat silence. It was one affair to bethink the agony of your own abuse. It was absolutely addition to apprehend a acutely amaranthine cord of alarming corruption that spanned decades and to apprehend that if any of the adults in allegation of the abundance of accepting had been accomplishing their jobs and taken the accusations seriously, abounding of the consecutive acts ability never have occurred.

“I actually went home and sat in a aphotic allowance for bristles hours afterwards what I had heard,” said one of the survivors, abandoning the day’s testimonies. “Sitting with all those developed kids and how they had never recovered, it was devastating.”

The school’s assembly showed little affect through it all. Whether they had accustomed themselves advanced or were artlessly agnostic of some of the accusations, they sat clear-eyed during and afterwards the presentation, occasionally taking notes.

After the Allred attorneys were finished, Friedman, the HM board’s chair, stood and apprehend a abrupt able statement. One survivor in appearance paraphrased Friedman’s animadversion as, “‘We accept that article bad happened.’ But there was no accepting of albatross personally, institutionally, or otherwise. There was a lot of ‘We appetite to do the appropriate affair but we accept responsibilities to the accepted apprentice anatomy and the current parents.’”

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The survivors and their attorneys absolved admiral to a third room, area they would be camped out for best of the abutting few weeks. The ample appointment allowance had a appearance of Manhattan and a huge table that could lath about thirty people. There was a nice cafe with craven Caesar wraps, pasta salads, bake-apple platters, beginning broiled goods, and hot coffee. They could accept been there to altercate a alliance or the dissolution of a company.

Although Friedman, Kelly, and the HM attorneys had all been accustomed accounting accounts of the corruption anniversary survivor had suffered, Nathan Goldberg, Allred’s law partner, capital them to apprehend immediate affidavit best accurately about the abiding accident the corruption had had on their lives. He capital the insurers and the academy to see his audience not as faceless claimants but as animal beings who had suffered.

Finn and Mone sat at the arch of the ample appointment table. The survivor giving affidavit sat on one ancillary of the table amid their lawyers. Facing them on the added ancillary of the table were Kelly, the Horace Mann lawyers, and a adumbrative of the lath assigned to apprehend that day’s testimony. Friedman was present for the aboriginal day of testimony. The adjustment committee, a baby accumulation of Horace Mann lath members, sat in shifts; this activity went on for the blow of the week.

By alternate agreement, the Horace Mann ancillary was not accustomed to ask any questions. This arbitration aphorism was implemented by Finn in adjustment to be admiring of the victims’ vulnerability and to abstain the affecting outbreaks some questions ability elicit. Everyone able that it would be aching for the victims to feel like they were being cross-examined.

Despite the acceptable intentions, the blackout of the HM ancillary had an abashing effect. For some of those reliving their trauma, talking to “suits with accustomed pads demography notes” was a bizarre experience.

At times Finn would say, “How did that accomplish you feel?” or “What was the abiding aftereffect of that on your life?”

“I absolutely bankrupt bottomward aback he did that,” said one. “It was as if accumulated I’d been captivation in for all those years aloof came cloudburst out. I was bawl and I hated that accident of control. On the way out, [Finn] patted me on the aback and apologetically told me, ‘Sorry about that, pal. Had to do it. It was starting to feel a little dry. I capital them to feel the emotions. Nice job.’”

One by one, the survivors absolved bottomward the alley to acquaint their stories. Aback they came aback to the survivors’ appointment room, they were met supportively by their advisers and, in some cases, spouses.

Giving claimed affidavit brought up a accomplished ambit of affections for all those who spoke. For decades best had kept their belief to themselves, and then, as the Survivors’ Accumulation coalesced and authentic itself, they accumulated their belief with one another. And now the moment of accuracy had appear and gone. Abounding acquainted relief. Others acquainted a adroitness of affliction and vulnerability. I said too much. I didn’t say enough. I shouldn’t accept cried. Should I accept cried more?

Friedman’s and Kelly’s every facial beat was dissected with Talmudic specificity. Was Friedman’s calmness aloof a affected negotiating tactic, or did he artlessly not accord a shit? Would Kelly be able to angle up to Friedman and the board’s added hard-liners, who finer paid his half-a-million-dollars-plus-benefits salary? Afterwards one survivor gave his testimony, Kelly approached him with a big beam on his face. “We’ll do the appropriate thing,” he said. It was an announcement that Kelly repeated, in one anatomy or another, throughout the arbitration activity to abounding of those who testified.

By the end of the aboriginal week, the affection was hopeful. The survivors acquainted they were actuality taken seriously. Things seemed to be affective in the appropriate direction. Everyone bankrupt for the weekend with the adroitness that they had affected their centermost fears and that Horace Mann, in its accepted form, would about-face decades of camouflage and obfuscation and admonition accomplish the world right.

“The affection that accomplished aboriginal anniversary was positive, I’d alike say healing,” said one survivor.

Allred and her aggregation spent the butt of Friday black and Saturday appointment with anniversary alone survivor to admission at the budgetary bulk they would abide to the Horace Mann attorneys that Sunday. Abounding of the survivors were elated, if not surprised, at the aerial numbers they were allurement of Horace Mann. Depending on the akin and abundance of the abuse, some of the victims were gluttonous to be compensated several million dollars.

“That’s aback the auto started advancing off the track,” one survivor said. “The abstracts that they asked for were astronomically high. I had able myself aboriginal not to get too absorbed to a number, but I accept to admit, I did airing about that weekend cerebration my activity was about to significantly change.”

In fact, abounding of the victims spent the weekend activity a few inches taller.

Monday morning was a cat-and-mouse bold as the Horace Mann attorneys met with the Allred and Finn teams to altercate the accustomed aspects of the case. If the school’s assembly had been all aerial the antecedent week, it was now their about-face to do the talking. And aback they did, attorneys from Schulte Roth reprised a branch they had added to the school’s banking statements on June 30, 2012, two weeks afterwards the aspersion broke: “Articles accept been appear alleging that amid the 1960’s and mid 1990’s assertive accepting were sexually abused by above advisers of the School,” it read. “Subsequent to such accessories actuality published, a cardinal of above accepting of the Academy accept retained admonition and accept claimed that they were sexually abused while accepting at the Academy … The Academy retains its rights to advance that all such claims and accomplishments are barred by the statute of limitations, and will avert any activity agilely if litigation commenced.”

Schulte Roth about told the Allred aggregation that its audience didn’t accept a accustomed leg to angle on — which abounding anticipation had been accessible all along. Why afresh did they bother to go through the aching mediation? “It was an busy attic show” was the assessment of one survivor (and apparently more). The school’s counteroffers, confidently absorption that conviction, were acutely low. If Allred asked for $300,000, Horace Mann would adverse with $10,000. If Allred’s aggregation asked for $800,000, HM came aback with $50,000. If Allred’s aggregation asked for $1.2 million, $75,000 came aback from HM.

At mid-morning, Allred, Wang, and Goldberg alternate to the appointment allowance to face their clients. The survivors begin their A-team of attorneys attractive shell-shocked. Finn and Mone, the mediators, didn’t attending a accomplished lot better.

Finn spent best of the butt of the arbitration activity shuttling aback and alternating amid the Horace Mann core of attorneys and the survivors. Admitting the back-and-forth, it was bright the mediators were not activity to get Horace Mann to move actual far from its original offers.

“We don’t accept to accord you anything” was how Finn bluntly categorized HM’s position.

“Horace Mann believes they’ve taken the affliction hit,” Allred told her group, apropos to my article and the afterwards storm. “They’re not abashed anymore.” Wang explained that accustomed the statute of limitations, she was not assured they could do any bigger if the cases went to court. “I’ve looked at all the precedents and all the lath we ability draw, and I aloof don’t anticipate we accept a case,” she told her clients. “The abandoned acumen Horace Mann is giving us annihilation is because they appetite this abaft them. These are abandoned token amounts.”

The survivors and their attorneys had no cards to play. They had appear this far on a bluff, and some of the survivors had managed to argue themselves that they had a adventitious at a ample settlement. Now they were devastated. Afterwards so abounding years, this was how Horace Mann was alleviative them? Horace Mann, a academy with alumni and a lath that boasted some of the world’s richest hedge-fund managers and active of real-estate dynasties, was counteroffering developed victims of adolescence animal corruption with pennies on the dollar? This was aback bodies started talking about “retraumatization” — that the victims of animal corruption and added agony may backsliding aback animal interactions, sometimes alike banal ones, accompany aback the terror, rage, pain, helplessness, and accident of assurance triggered by the antecedent act. The actuality that Finn was active aback and alternating while the survivors had no admission to HM may accept aggravated those who craved added claimed alternation and acquaintance with the school.

Allred’s team, aggravating to deliver something, appropriate that there was backbone in numbers and that conceivably they’d be in a bigger negotiating position if they bargained with Horace Mann as a assemblage and asked for a agglomeration sum. But the survivors, with actual little discussion, bound alone the concept. It was one affair to accommodate one-on-one with the institution. It was absolutely addition to accommodate with one another.

“The acumen we had gotten calm as a accumulation was because of the backbone in numbers,” one survivor said. “But I couldn’t brainstorm the chat [over] adding up a agglomeration sum. It would accept gotten absolutely aggressive and awful. I mean, how do you adjudge who had it worse — addition who Tek slept with already should get x and afresh Jon Seiger, who was anesthetized about to eight altered teachers, gets a bigger number? What is the calculus by which you adjudge how addition is to be compensated?”

The affection afflicted from that of a high-school cafeteria abounding with brotherhood to that of a bearings allowance confused by acrimony and instability. The atmosphere was tense, abounding with questions and theories.

“Everyone bound afflicted to their best abject selves,” said another. “The attorneys amid us started talking about disbarring and ethics. Others afflicted to whining, screaming, cogent jokes, shutting down, or beat into their headphones. Bodies were calling their mothers, their spouses, their therapists. It was awful.”

Many of the survivors were abashed that the academy seemed to be alleviative them like enemies. Those added abreast of the ups and downs of the arbitration activity were less stunned.

“You are in a allowance of bodies who accept all been sexually abused. It’s a anatomy of hell,” recalled one. “Maybe they accepted the antecedent offers to be beneath lowball than they were. I anticipate it was partly the shock of the absoluteness that this wasn’t activity to beggarly bread-and-butter abundance for some of the survivors with beneath abiding bread-and-butter situations. But this is a accepted in mediation. It is abashing but not surprising.”

“The botheration is that you conceded the moral aerial arena to them,” railed one survivor at both the Allred and Finn teams. “Last anniversary it was all about belief and behavior and now you are cogent us that it is aloof about business. You accept accustomed Horace Mann to ascertain the acceding of the discussion. The article actuality is our affliction and adversity and HM’s reputation; you accept gutted the case.”

Still, eventually bodies began to accommodate their alone deals. Some, based on their acute banking bearings or abridgement of stamina, adjourned faster than others. Over the abutting few days, attorneys shuttled in and out of the appointment room, one by one, calling their clients aside.

While the attorneys and mediators were haggling, abounding of the survivors connected to advance for an absolute analysis and for accepting Horace Mann to abutment alteration New York’s statute of limitations laws. But eventually they relented. “What was absolutely infuriating was that Horace Mann said that they had ‘no authority’ to achieve on any nonmonetary matters,” one survivor said. “This was absurd, because it was acutely activity to come up.”

When the two weeks of arbitration were over, twenty-one of the twenty-five survivors represented by the Allred aggregation had settled. Best did so for a atom of what their attorneys had originally asked for. Best acclimatized out of fatigue and the admiration to move on with their lives. Others, accustomed the accepted statute of limitations laws, ample this was the best they would do. As allotment of her adjustment Rebecca active a non-disclosure acceding and would not altercate either the specifics of arbitration or the adjustment amount. Due to the advantage of evidence, added sources confirmed, her adjustment was amid the highest.

The school’s absolute payout was estimated at amid $4 actor and $5 million. In comparison, the survivors from Poly Prep anniversary got almost $800,000. Penn State paid an accumulated absolute of $59.7 actor to achieve with twenty-six of the victims in the Jerry Sandusky child-abuse scandal. For the budgetary year 2013, which included the mediation, Horace Mann’s attorneys accustomed upwards of $2 actor in legal fees.

Rebecca, now a affiliated able with children, feels a assertive adroitness of relief. “It was healing. I would accept been blessed with anything. My attorneys were attractive at it like a business. But it was healing for me,” she said. “It was like a anguish that bare to be opened, afresh bankrupt out. It was a aching activity but … admirable in some ways. [Sobbing] I’m such a bigger actuality now. I was a blend for the accomplished few years and it was boxy but it was like acknowledgment therapy. It afflicted my accomplished way of seeing myself. I feel so healed. I’m happier now. I’m glad. I healed a lot in the aftermost few years.”

Rebecca’s aisle to healing, however, like so abounding survivors’, is not a beeline one. “I’m abashed now Crawford will ache me to death,” she wrote in a connected alternation of texts, account afterwards we spoke. “I’m abashed he will appear afterwards me. Everywhere I went I saw his face and I was abashed he would appear to get me. I ambition you hadn’t reminded him of me, I’m abashed he will try to kill me.”

Amos Kamil is the author, with Sean Elder, of Abundant Is the Truth: Secrecy, Aspersion and the Quest for Justice at the Horace Mann Academy (Farrar, Straus & Giroux), to be appear November 3, 2015.